Introspective Insights

Introspective - adj: Examining sensory and perceptual experiences. Insight - n: The capacity to discern the true nature of a situation.


You’ve heard it before and maybe even fell victim to the entitlement trap, believing you deserve something when you don’t. Popular thinking states that I was wronged by this person / organization / workplace and therefore I am entitled to apologies / compensation / salary adjustment. While that seems plausible, the world doesn’t work that way and we would all be happier if we stopped engaging in these unrealistic expectations.

Let’s try a different way of living. Here are some ideas:

  • If you loan money to someone, don’t expect it in return. They likely won’t repay you anyway, so why go through the pain? Make sure that you are not enabling and not giving in a debilitating way and don’t repeatedly do it for the same person.
  • If you fall victim to an accident, don’t sue the other party. They feel bad enough about the incident, especially if it was their fault. Of course, there is a chance they will think they “got away with it”, but in the end, their choices lay on their own heads.
  • If you are insulted and ridiculed, ignore and walk away. Better yet, find a way to sincerely compliment the person, within the right time frame, of course. After repeated incidents, they won’t know what to do with you. If they continue, you have the right to cut off contact to secure your own mental health.

Expectations kill relationships. We expect a certain response, behavior, or outcome and when we don’t get it, our opinion of the person plummets even further. How about accepting them as they are and taking responsibility to change yourself and your situation if that is what is warranted?

Every single person you know will disappoint you at some point in life. No one is perfect and putting anyone on a pedestal of perfection and expectation is a dangerous, relationship fatality.


Hi! I'm Jennifer. I'm here in my little corner of southeastern Michigan observing relationships, family, and the world hoping to dig deeper and find the divine spark in it all. Thanks for visiting!

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